For the last 16 weeks as I have sought to complete assignments for the leadership class I’m enrolled in at UH Manoa, I have defined my leadership by the sphere and reach of my occupation, both as a pastor at New Hope and as the president of our University of Hawaii Registered Independent Organization, Fuse. With each assignment, I have taken the time to appraise the church and the club, while assessing my ability and competency. Today, an unexpected turn of events in my personal life has given me a fresh perspective on life and leadership. The news received wasn’t dreadful, by any means, but it acted as a strong reality check. My son, Aaron Ezekiel Smith, who is scheduled for delivery on January 12, apparently has decided that he isn’t interested in waiting that long and is beginning to force his way out 5 weeks prior to his due date. With this exciting news, the
reality of the joy and hard work of caring for a newborn rushed to the forefront of my mind, affording me a healthy realization of the significance of change.
Whether you are one who the mere word “change” causes a fearful incapacitation to overtake your body or one who embraces the excitement and newness of change, the fact remains that, in life, change is inevitable. Attempts to avoid change is mere futility, thus developing a positive response to change is key in maintaining an acceptable level of sanity in a world of apparent chaos.
Properly navigating through change will often lead to increased satisfaction and productivity, thus discovering methods of coping with change are critical. Daryl R. Conner has developed a model that I have found extremely helpful, which he has named, “Five Phases of Positive Response to Change.”
Phase 1 of this model is Uninformed Optimism. Associated with this phase is a general excitement in regards to creating something new. The idea seems flawless and spirits are high as expectations skyrocket. About a year ago, my wife and I discussed the joy of having another baby, and the ideal of growing our family appeared utopian. Optimism was king as we dreamed of how much joy and satisfaction we would discover.
Phase 2 is Informed Pessimism. This phase is the reality check.
When things don’t go as planned, team conflict arises, and the excitement and high fives have been exchanged for the perspiration of hard work, doubt arises and the team questions if this venture is truly worth the cost. I’m well aware that this phase will come following the birth of Ezekiel. The crying, the dirty diapers, the sleepless nights, and the sharing of household responsibilities will soon cause the optimism to appear as stupidity, and in these moments we must remember that this too shall pass.
Phase 3 is Hopeful Realism. As the team begins to experience the benefits of change, they find an increased confidence and buy-in, and with an increase of momentum comes a renewed excitement. The team moves forward with this renewed passion and fervor in Phase 4- Informed Optimism, and each victory fuels and empowers. As our baby grows, laughs, plays and loves,
a glimpse of the dream of the perfect family becomes a reality. The joy of holding my son close, playing with him, and laughing with him increases my love for him, and the hopeful realism transforms to concrete optimism. The final phase is Completion where growth and progress continue and the
positive affects are multiplied.
I am well aware that Conner’s five phases don’t provide an exact fit for child development as change is ongoing, but Conner’s principles can be universally applied. I often find myself wholeheartedly diving into change as visions of grandeur flood my head, but when the “rubber meets the road” and the hard work needed to accomplish completion is realized my tendency is to throw in the towel.
As the leader of the Smith family, I have been made aware that change is inevitable, thus properly, and actively, navigating through change is key to our
success. The question isn’t “if” you face change, but “when” you will. When you face change how will you respond? Change leads to progress, and an avoidance of change often leads to an unhealthy life. Live your life to the fullest by embracing the power of change, and you will understand true joy.

































